Book Reading #36 - Coming of Age in Samoa

Reference:
Coming of Age in Samoa
Margaret Mead
1928 Harper Perennial

Summary:
As Samoans enter adulthood, they have to lose their carefree attitude in order to function with the rest of the villiage.  When two people from different villiages marry, they must live in one villiage or the other.  Little changes for the woman if she is the one to move, but the man in the relationship is removed from the group he's worked and grown with his entire life.  He finds it difficult to ever completely fit in with the working group of a new villiage, which in turn leads him to become more focused.  Women look forward to their first child, while men look forward to their first title.  As they age, a woman gains more power over the intimate family unit, while the man gains more power in the political workings of the villiage.
Discussion:
I find it a bit curious that the men that move to the villiage of their wife have so much trouble fitting in with the new Aumaga.  I wonder if it is all due to resistance from the Aumaga to fully accept an outsider into their ranks, or if it also involves a part of the man that refuses to fully accept assimilating into an alien group.